S1E3: Miles Adcox: The Sales Leader’s Dilemma
The Unspoken Truth That Wrecks Teams
What’s your process for checking your self-awareness? How much of a priority are you putting on your emotional and mental wellness as a leader? When leaders are self-aware and emotionally fit, that’s when they’re truly integrated and whole leaders.
In this episode, Miles Adcox, owner and CEO of Onsite, an internationally-known emotional wellness lifestyle brand that delivers life-changing personal growth workshops and leadership retreats, shares how to have longevity and accountability as a leader by weaving mental and emotional skills. LISTEN TO EPISODE HERE.
Show Notes:
You won’t last long as a leader if you can’t take care of your people.
Taking care of the human first is important so that they can produce. Restoring, reflecting, reconnecting, recalibrating who we are so that we can better become who we’re supposed to be professionally and personally.
Self-awareness is the one thing in leadership that has this unspoken dilemma of a leader and therefore creates (because it’s unspoken and unsaid in most environments) an obstacle, but it’s only two degrees away from our biggest opportunity.
Before you can even take care of others, you have to take care of yourself. Leaders who have shied away from vulnerable conversations or true audit and assessment about themselves and their own lives, should give it a go, and tell me after you finish if you think it’s a soft skill or not. Because there’s nothing soft about it. It’s actually hard because it’s counter-cultural.
You can’t hold a team accountable until you hold yourself accountable.
Leadership can create abnormal life circumstances because it creates high levels of stress. Unaddressed stress creates anxiety, disconnection, loneliness, addictions, et cetera. All of which kill connection, true leadership. So whatever it is that makes a leader a leader, you signed up for a career when you’re at the top of your game, to kill it. That’s why it’s a dilemma.
As leaders, it’s your job to start making mental and emotional health a priority and telling people on the front end here’s what they’re susceptible of and how to keep their magic and flow. If you take care of yourself you can do it, and here’s the ecosystem and environment we’re going to create to help you do so.
One of the strongest tools that we can teach leaders and human beings is self-awareness. Self-awareness is underestimated because we assume if we’re good with people and if we have influence that we assume that we’re self-aware.
Reading people well is not a predictor for being able to read yourself and assess what’s going on with you. Self-awareness is something that should be maintained, worked on and grown.
When leaders are self-aware and emotionally fit, that’s when they’re truly integrated and whole leaders.
Knowing emotional intelligence and actually feeling it and integrating it are two different things.
People are going to experience stress differently, and when you internalize it and don’t have a proper outlet for it inside and outside of the workplace, then it will compound and for some people it’s going to come out sideways.
There’s a pressure to treat people like products in order to meet our goals.
Four Ps: pay attention, prioritize, prime the pump, and produce
Most of the time people don’t talk about how stress is impacting them, so that’s a good prompting question from a leader. How do you respond to stress? We’re going to go around and do a quick check in on how you’re responding to stress.
On the back end of the economic and health crisis, a growing mental health crisis is infiltrating and impacting your companies and your teams. One in three people is affected with a mental health crisis. So if you’ve got more than three people on your team, then you’re in the club of having a human element to your condition.
When you begin to put more accountability into your system, you’re saving time, you’re saving money, but it won’t feel like that on the front end because you’re shifting a paradigm or a cultural norm, and it does feel like a challenge in the beginning.
We become better leaders by becoming better human beings.
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About Miles Adcox
Miles Adcox is a speaker, podcast host, business leader, and coach. He is the Owner and CEO of Onsite, an internationally-known emotional wellness lifestyle brand that delivers life-changing personal growth workshops, inspiring content, leadership retreats, and emotional treatment. Miles’ work at Onsite has been featured on 20/20, Good Morning America, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Dr. Phil Show, and The Doctors. Miles Adcox has devoted his life to living into these three concepts: Empathy over action, love over agenda, and grace over advice. Publicly and privately, he is known as one of the most plugged-in people on human condition that there is today.
He is the owner of Onsite Music Publishing, Milestones at Onsite, and the Ex-Officio of The Onsite Foundation — as well as the founder of Inspire Nashville. Miles has created and managed multiple mental health programs, personal growth workshops, and speaks nationally on emotional wellness. Miles has been a featured speaker and facilitator at various international events including Random House & O-The Oprah Magazine’s Rising Strong Day with Dr. Brene Brown and TEDx.
He has consulted major brands on organizational health and emotional wellness and is a communication, personal growth, and mental health consultant to the entertainment industry.
Currently, works with and consults several NGO’s and serves as Spokesperson for The Onsite Foundation, C4, Dream 514, and is an advisory board member for Musicians on Call.
